introduction to the work

There are not a lot of courses like mine around. May I quickly say I'm not trying to be arrogant - but really to point out the difference. So you know what to expect.

Most "presentation" courses are dealing with how to structure presentations - best use of powerpoint etc. They might include a little bit of how to handle fear - maybe by advocating "practice practice practice" or runnning on the spot or deep breathing or some relaxation techniques.

technology sometimes gets in the wayMy courses look at the fundamental skills we need for being in front of people and dealing with what causes the fear. So we can be present with people and be the centre of attention without worrying.

Facing and dealing with the fear is something we need to do straight away rather than over-prepare and hide behind technology. We can  learn to be the centre of attention, we can learn how to speak publicly in way that is easier, where we do less rather than more. My courses are about creating as safe a place as possible to explore this -  a place where you will be supported.

It's really helpful to understand that there are some different skills and assumptions we need when we are in front of a group of people. Part of that change is understanding the secret.....

the secret

It shouldn’t be a secret but it seems to be one.

Part of what we are scared of is being listened to.
That might sound daft at first.
“No, its me being nervous that gets in the way” I hear you say.

Actually most of us can speak. Most of us know the stuff that we should be talking about.
But things happen when we stand in front of people. We are not used to seeing blank faces when we speak. We want reassurance but we get blank faces

And most of the audience just looks at you with a blank face.

not one smiling face - thats normal for audiences - but you don't normally get that many hats!That’s very different from a normal conversation where we get affirmed by smiles and "Uh-huhs".
Maybe two or three people in an audience nod and smile at us but if you just look at them for 20 minutes you will freak them out!

We assume those blank faces are judging us in some way.
We assume that people think we ARE "boring" or that in some way we will be "humiliated". So guess what?
We see people who look bored or find people who are judging us to confirm whats in our heads. That face looks bored so she must be bored.
We confirm what we are looking for.
Or “What we seek therefore is what we get”.

We don't assume support - we assume attack.
We also tend to sweep the audience with our eyes rather than speaking to one person at a time.

Seeing public speaking as a series of one-to-one conversations is a powerful way of changing our view of the task. We need to be able to change and build that relationship between speaker and listener. And it’s the how we do that makes speaking circles different.
hiding usually isn't an option
Speaking Circles® workshops transform the way people communicate by focusing on the essential first step missing in conventional public speaking trainings — the connection between you the speaker and your listeners. Get that connection right then everything else becomes simpler.

Of course there are other factors around what stops us being ourselves but the course helps you to deal with those as part of our work.

Speaking circles® helps you deal with these issues by developing a way of connecting thats different. More neutral, more powerful and more space to be yourself.
And you need to experience it to understand it.
But once you’ve got it - its really empowering.
And it doesn’t feel like a secret any more.

quotes from participants

A fantastic course which has given me a new perspective on things. A safe environment was created from the start and everyone was made to feel welcomed and accepted.
Joe

The course was absolutely brilliant. I wasn't expecting it to change other areas of my life but it has, The power of just being is profound. I've had a real shift in thought processes which is very empowering
Stuart

The whole course was very well run, very powerful, completely different from anything I've done before. Felt very safe which is something I've never felt in a group before
Lisa

Very simple yet effective means of talking to audiences. Wish I’d known about this when I was younger.
Chris
 

I liked how down to earth it was, how animated you were and how good you were at explaining emotions and situations. I loved it, what a great experience and it was  exactly what I needed. I'm excited about the future now.
Steve

Thank you for a very effective course that has and will continue to help me be more comfortable in public speaking.
Arlo

The course was open, interactive, upbeat, articulate, inclusive & supporting. Nice pace and content with a fair injection of humour and I loved it
Ben

Great Value as a course. In one day John shared a technique that really works and has transformed my confidence in connecting rapidly with the people I meet personally and professionally.
Hugh